After a full week of focusing on so many details to help with my move, I said ‘see you later'(never say goodbye) to people who had given every bit of their energy and strength to unpack, arrange my things and offer their emotional support. I miss them terribly but know that their time with me had to end. They have returned to their own homes and I have begun the process of making this new place – my home.
It has been a long time since I have moved to a new town. I think about all of the people who I met along the way while living in Greenville NC for 20 years. They helped shape who I am today and I know they will always be a part of me. Even though we are far from one another, we will stay connected – that is the way of friendships.
Tonight I write as Lilly sleeps next to me. No kennel will confine her right now. She is by my side with an alert eye to the changes around us. We belong to one another and in a place filled with new faces and routines, this bond brings comfort and strength.
The stress of establishing ourselves is evident. Lilly always loses her appetite when there is change of any kind. I feel easily overwhelmed as I meet incoming assistants and begin training for my care. I feel easily overwhelmed as I continue to look for pieces of my life still packed or stacked in undiscovered places throughout my apartment. I pray for patience as this transition takes place at a pace set by the length of each day and the schedule of those who are with me to help.
Through it all I am grateful for the support and structure of the community around me. This retirement community is beautiful – out every window there is a view of trees and mountains. The food is great and I am never alone – but I have moved into a retirement community. At the age of 54 this was not what I anticipated.
This was, and still is, a big decision. Each day I talk myself through moments of challenge and, in turn, give thanks for the chance to make such a move. This community has welcomed both Lilly and I. Even though the work of resettling can only be done by me, I know it would have been more challenging without the support and resources available in this place.
Why the fishbowl? The image speaks to my feelings. Like that fish, my leap to make this move is a stretch and risky. The new bowl is larger and full of possibilities. Taking this leap has been an act of faith. An act of faith filled with unanswered questions and unexpected feelings.
And tomorrow is a new day…
6 thoughts on “a bigger bowl…”
every transition in our lives leaves us asking questions, and wondering how we will meet the challenges … especially for someone who finds themselves dependent on others for some of their basic living needs, it can be difficult to feel settled, or comfortable in your new surroundings … wishing you continued days filled with an ever-increasing sense of belonging in this new space, and many new adventures
Support comes from many places and helps with settling in. Thank you for offering your support. Many blessings.
you will find peace in the Mountaiins and many new friends. Old friends will also find you and visit. Keep us all posted on your adventures. Wish you well. Prayers are with you. Lilyan
Your prayers mean so much. There is a sense of peace already. Thank you for your encouragement. Take care!
Lovely post! My story: Pham and Her Gold Fish is very similar to this: http://subhanzein.wordpress.com/2012/03/04/pham-and-her-gold-fish/ 🙂
Welcome to this bench! Thank you for your kind words.